Tonight I said “no”. I didn’t even say “no THANKS”. Just “No”. “NO” is not always an easy thing for me to say. I have this deep-grained philosophy in me that says if I CAN help someone out, I SHOULD.
I was asked to do something. Something that I COULD have done but didn’t want to do. Something that wouldn’t have HURT me or caused me too much distress and wouldn’t have even made me go too far out of my way to help. But I said no.
Why? The request came from someone who doesn’t know the fine art of saying thank you. This person is nice. Pleasant even. Always a smile on their face. I’m sure their friends and family think the sun rises and sets in their eyes. However, I drew my line in the sand. Over the years I’ve done for this person and given things to this person with nary a thank you (sometimes not even an acknowledgement of receipt). Tonight I said NO to a request from them and I don’t feel bad about it at all.
I don’t DO things or give things to get thank you notes. I also understand that occasionally, a thank you will slip through the cracks because of other things in life going on. (I’m not an unfeeling, uncaring, un-understanding bitch.) However, I think that too many people have forgotten the fine art of saying thank you – let alone actually WRITING a thank you. Do parents even teach their children to write thank you notes these days? NO acknowledgement? No ‘thank you’ via email or Facebook or Instagram? I don’t get it. (And, I’m talking adults here, who should KNOW better. Who most certainly should have been taught the fine art of a thank you and are probably just too lazy, busy or distracted to do it.)
So, I said NO and I feel 100% comfortable with my answer. I didn’t even think about it a minute. I got the request. I said no. End of story. (Well, ALMOST the end of story – I must admit to having occasional twinges of guilt. Thanks to my Midwest upbringing, I’m sure.)
On a quilting note, here are a few pictures of the stitching progress on my Bros & Sistas quilt. Big stitch quilting using Finca 12 thread with the hoop as my pattern. Concentric circles. Once again, whether by machine or hand, they aren’t circular. I think I’ve given up on any of my ‘concentric circle’ quilting being circular OR concentric (as I messed up and have some spirals in it also!). I think it will become my trademark. NON-concentric circle quilting. I like that idea better! It’s been very enjoyable doing this in front of the TV. I almost have the centre quilted and next will start on the outside edges.
And here is a picture of the building blocks for the quilt for my brother using his military uniforms and Crown Royal bags.